The importance of living a values-driven life

In an uncertain and volatile world, we may often struggle to find some direction. Future plans can feel unclear, and external circumstances often lie beyond our control. Rather than feeling lost in this unpredictability, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers a path forward by encouraging us to live a values-driven life. But what does that truly mean, and how can we begin to align our lives with our personal values?

Values are not about grand gestures but about showing up, again and again, even in small ways.

When we are not aware of our values or drift away from them, it can feel like we are living a life that does not quite belong to us. This disconnect often manifests as a lingering sense of dissatisfaction or inner turmoil, making us question our purpose and identity. Over time, the misalignment between our actions and our deeply held beliefs can contribute to feelings of anxiety, depression, and a pervasive emptiness. Essentially, our values act as an internal compass, and without them, every decision can feel directionless and unfulfilling. Recognising and reconnecting with these personal truths is not just about achieving happiness — it is a vital step toward living a more authentic and balanced life.

Values vs. goals: Understanding the difference

A common misconception is that values and goals are interchangeable. However, while goals are specific achievements — like buying a house, earning a promotion, or completing a marathon — values are guiding principles that shape our journey. They are not destinations but the compass that helps us navigate life’s uncertainties. Values reflect who we want to be and how we want to show up in the world, regardless of external circumstances.

For example, if kindness is a core value, it remains constant whether or not we receive recognition for our efforts. Unlike goals, which can be ticked off a list, values are ongoing and embodied through our daily actions.

Living in alignment with our values

Aligning our lives with our values requires ongoing intention and commitment. It is not about waiting for perfect circumstances but about making daily choices that honour our deepest principles. Here are some steps to begin this journey:

1. Identify our core values

Take time to reflect on what truly matters to us. Is it connection, kindness, integrity, faith, or resilience? Consider moments in our lives when we felt most fulfilled — what values were we living out? For example, if we recall feeling deeply content while helping a friend through a difficult time, compassion may be a core value for us. If we felt most alive while working on a creative project, self-expression might be a guiding principle.

2. Make space for discomfort

Living a values-driven life does not mean avoiding pain. In the midst of turmoil and uncertainty, it is essential to hold space for our emotions. Acknowledging anger towards those who have hurt us, rather than suppressing it, can be an important step. Difficult emotions do not signify failure or a lack of inner strength — they are part of being human. For instance, if fairness is an important value to us, feeling frustration over injustice is natural. Instead of pushing the feeling away, we can channel it into actions that align with fairness, such as advocating for those in need.

3. Turn towards what matters

Values are not about grand gestures but about showing up, again and again, even in small ways. This could mean spending quality time with our loved ones, showing up at work and putting in our best effort, or exercising regularly and taking care of ourselves. These small acts, done consistently, reinforce the people we want to be.

4. Begin again, every day

There will be moments when we falter—when fear or frustration takes over. But each new breath offers a fresh beginning and we begin again with intention and purpose. If perseverance is a value we hold dear, this could mean continuing to pursue a goal despite setbacks or showing up for our commitments even when motivation wavers.

Values are not destinations but the compass that helps us navigate life’s uncertainties.

The power of values in uncertain times

We may never be able to control or predict what the future holds, but we do have control over how we choose to live in the present. A values-driven life is not about eliminating uncertainty but about finding meaning within it. By embracing our values, we can cultivate resilience, deepen our relationships, and move forward with purpose, no matter what lies ahead.

As we navigate our own journey, let us ask ourselves: What kind of people do we want to be, even in the face of uncertainty? Let that answer guide our path.

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